How One Deadly Shot Against Procrastination Made a BIG Difference

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Procrastination is often a symptom of perfectionism. Because perfectionists fear being unable to complete a task perfectly, they put it off as long as possible. This stems from the fear that not meeting the goal means that there is something bad, wrong or unworthy inside of them.

Quote by Denise Jacobs

Whaoh! Sixteen (16) days gone already. My last post was published sixteen days ago? It sure is a lot of work to write each post. But I flow so naturally and unstoppable once I start writing. Though I know it can be tasking, but am always unfettered and unruffled by the hard work involved. So, why did I stop for this long?

Not that I did not have a daily urge to write or at least a topic to write on. I have actually started a post and left it as a draft. But I could not just spare the time to write because I was not in the mood. I also seem to have a silent fear that I will not be able to deliver the kind of quality write up that I want without distractions from my other life pursuits.

But this gave me a sense of loss. Loss of productivity, loss of connection with my online friends and co-bloggers. And a loss of traction to the speed and momentum I was building up.

Wait a minute, sense of loss? Did I write that? 16 days of FAILING to write or 16 days of SUCCEEDING only in procrastination? Even in this, my cup is half full not half empty. This makes me to remember, I have Succeeded in Zero out of 3 Happiness and Confidence Test.

I will speak and write about succeeding and not failing. A failure is someone who has given up, who has not started, or taken a step. I only had a break. A failure will be the car maker stopping work in 1914, simply because he/she could get a futuristic glimpse of the fast cars of 2018. A failure can be likened to a snail that refuse to starts its journey simply because it sees ahead, a tortoise, then a turtle, then a cheetah.

Therefore today, I choose to direct just one deadly shot against procrastination. Just write! And guess what, I choose to write about that one thing that is holding me back, procrastination. I faced the elephant in the room.

I realize that I procrastinated on this very important journey because I allow it to drop in my order of priority. I allowed myself to be bugged down by the same old “other people’s very urgent and important businesses”, and things that are in my comfort zone, rather than push my limit in this one area of flow and joy. This seemingly unimportant and not so urgent area of my life, but where I want to start making the biggest changes and achieve the highest growth.

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I understand your personal frustration as you too sit in the hall way of procrastination.

But you too can get up, dust off the lethargy, arm yourself with your clearly identified life goals, game changer ideas or pursuit and just go for it! Get on board that stimulating train or activity again. That one jolly train that was taking you on your journey of purpose and accomplishment.

So, what are you going to do, differently?

My one deadly shot against procrastination, was; just start, just do it.

To further assist your understanding and expand this beyond my usual simplistic solutions, I decided to search for additional guides. Let me start with a summary from two Forbes write ups;  10 Scientifically Proven Tips for Beating Procrastination and Why Being A Perfectionist Can Hold You Back

1. Pick your poison – this is about focus and choosing/ prioritizing on ONE thing.

2. Start today – taking immediate action.

3. Five Minute Miracle – taking a small doable chunk, or identified small action.

4. Do a Power Hour – put away all distractions and work in concentrated chunks of time.

5. Kill it With Kindness – forgive yourself for past procrastination.

6. Have a Procrastination Power Song – get a song that really gets you energized.

7. Get under the hood – understand exactly why you’ve been procrastinating a specific task.

8. Let It Go – decide if this item need to be dropped off the ‘to do list’.

9. Make a bet – have an accountability buddy and have a bet with the person.

10. Make it fun – create a reward for yourself if the procrastinated task is completed.

Finally, I have done it again. I have gone a long way writing another blog I can be proud of simply because I took the first steps.

Prior to now, I had finished some other “pressing” priorities. Yesterday, I had a very lively and stimulating conversation with a colleague about my blog. This spurred me into action and made me refocus to do just this ONE thing that I have procrastinated doing for so long. I had the conversation yesterday, failed again (did not succeed) to start yesterday even though it was on my ‘to do list’ for several days. But I took action today. At least, today is closer to immediately, more than tomorrow or never. I just wanted to kick start it. But I went more than 75% with the first shot. I did not just do a five minute miracle slot, I used a two hours online meeting to multitask.

Surely, according to the research referred to in the Forbes write up,

“… once you start something, you’re much more likely to finish it”…

This is a psychological phenomenon called, the Zeigarnik effect. With two hours spent now, I had moved from a five minute miracle to doing a power one hour. I have also forgiven myself (maybe not totally), for procrastinating this long. I also overcame the lethargy of not wanting to fail. My accountability buddy sent me a reminder email this morning, funny, just remembering. Did all these seemingly unconnected actions actually contributed to me writing this post today? Maybe.

What are you currently procrastinating doing? What will you do now, immediately, to make a difference? What can you advice to help someone stop procrastinating? Are you been daunted by procrastination triggers?

Chris Bailey’s Harvard Business Review write up on 5 Research-Based Strategies for Overcoming Procrastination listed Pychyl’s seven triggers that make a task seem more averse. They are, if the task is, boring, frustrating, difficult, ambiguous, unstructured, not intrinsically rewarding, or lacking in personal meaning.

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I started with my ONE shot, 5 miracle minutes, 2 hours of multitasking doing this post, and ended up spending additional hours to learn more.

I realized from Robin Sharma (How I Beat Procrastination) 2WW, that my walking exercises over the weekend could also have aided my “readiness” to write today.

Rafeal Eliassen sounded so persuasive in Killing Procrastination – COMPLETELY Eliminate Putting Things Off, FOREVER. He talked about how most of us do to tap into our potential and talent. This is the same damning verdict I got yesterday when I finally made a so long procrastinated call to someone. Again, perhaps another unknown and seemingly unrelated shot that may have helped me to write this post.

Mel Robbins TEDxSF How to stop screwing yourself over came late, but made me realize that I stopped screwing myself when I pushed my ONE first shot and started to just write. I actually talked and opened up to a friend over the weekend. This is someone who had always harassed me that I don’t talk freely.  Someone I can call a close stranger. I said I was not FINE! That I needed to do things differently. This is the same person who helped me get back to my exercise routine, just been an exercise buddy.

Mel Robbins piece in Retrain your Mind, and The Secret to Self-Motivation is also fantastic. The question, “why is it so hard to do the little things that will change my life”, struck a deep cord down my heart. The importance of the DECISIONS or INDECISIONS I make, daily, the 5 seconds rule, etc also corroborate the other advise from other writers or “coach”. Then comes again that powerful fact of, JUST DO IT NOW!

DON’T wait for TOMORROW before you ACT.

Infact, don’t wait for the 6th second after now.

Within 5 seconds from now, DO SOMETHING POSITIVE to move your life, task or project FORWARD.

Beat the procrastination triggers off this game.

PLEASE, don’t throw away tomorrow.

(By the way, that’s the title of a great book by Robert H. Schuller, you need to get one and read.)

Or, if we neglect today, can tomorrow be better?

I started in the morning with a first shot.

I have done several reviews and rewriting all day, actually dropping everything else.

It’s evening and am beginning to get a bit frustrated that I have not been able to finish the post. I feel like just publishing it as is. But I can’t. It’s not yet good enough. Is it my perfectionist self at play again? Now it will want me to procrastinate on publishing this for you to read. Why should there be so many obstacles and barriers towards a good cause? At every new turn, after one other victory, why is perfectionism and procrastination there, standing in the way of my tomorrow?

Starting is just the beginning. There should be no delusion that there is always a lot of hard work involve in delivering our goal.

See you tomorrow, with your yesterday’s goals achieved, as you fiercely progress towards your life purpose and as you brighten up the world around you with the smile of someone who has had fulfilling today.

Photocredits: Smallstarter Africa, Pinterest, motivationalreads

 

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3 Steps to maximizing your brainbox?

Why should the “grey matter” inside the skull be called a brain and the whole system not called a thinking box? And why not call the long fluffy end of a female hair, a mop stick end. You got it? Ok. So, why can’t the teeth and mouth joint structure be called speaker, chair called floor brush, toes called floor rake and breakfast called dinner?

0C0C7FE2-8DDB-4BA3-A07B-FABD6BE8485FWhen I shared with a 14 year old who is learning the rudiments of coding how a blog or website can be created from a WordPress theme template rather than from the scratch, I got what I did not bargained for. I was questioned why anything on the internet should be believed. She wondered if a “toddler professor” or an “acclaimed academia”, “subject matter expert” or anyone that simple want to expresss his/herself can’t also just pick up some ideas and share on the web. This can be picked up by someone else, and used as from an “authoritative source”.

Before I started this post, I asked WordPress support team to assist with a theme customization that I had struggled with for a while. And bingo, within minutes, I got some tips, applied it myself, and I got the result I had struggled to get on my own. So, there are tested hands who know their onions and should be listened to.

My co blogger who is battling with PKD go regularly to see medical professionals who are helping her with her health challenge. I read HBR, Forbes and other magazines to enhance my knowledge since the articles seems to make some sense. And just yesterday at a meeting, the coordinator said some words and some others also said theirs, … and am suppose to believe they will all come to pass? They call it prayers!

The last time I checked, there is still no border wall separating America from Mexico, but it may come tomorrow. During the last American election campaign, that seemed like a given, just waiting to happen, a day after inauguration.

060809A9-BBDD-4991-A763-054553BEB402And if a total stranger or familiar acquaintance just yell at you now and call you stupid, big piggy fat-liar, a slob, disgusting animal, a beautiful or ugly piece of ass, a failure, or a wasteful spender who will not amount to anything; am sure your emotions will hit the roof. Yet, what authority has this abusive stranger or acquaintance? Who submit “power” to this person by a “supportive emotional response” and thereby validate the negative venom flushed out?

Emotions don’t ask for a degree, experience or reference to believe or react so passionately to junks – spoken, acted, or written!

I hope you are not at a loss now as to which “professional” you should believe or doubt. I know you don’t easily believe one, that’s YOU! You possible rarely even trust YOU enough to speak, act or write down who YOU truly are. Including who YOU are now compared to who YOU used to be, and who YOU will be soon in-spite of all the nay sayers, self doubt, obstacles, current realities and negativities that surround YOU.

421901AA-C5BD-4447-A2F9-5BECCFB63454The ability to create is in the mouth, the mind, the head or “thinking-action-box”. You’ve got all these as an individual, great, frail or small. Privatelyme and you, we need to take more control of our life, our actions, reactions, responses and behavior. Each of us is immensely qualified to. If YOU are gone today to the great beyond, no matter the best of wealth or medical expertise, no one can be you again. At best a close clone, an imitation or a recasting of your past or possible future by an actor. Definitely, not the reality that could have been, with you in control.

Switch on to maximum pitch

So, what 3 steps are you to follow to maximize your brainbox especially when it comes to maximize your life? In this issue, I will give the top headlines and expand on them in subsequent issues;

1. Control your environment

2. Know your planned destination

3. Follow the law of Jordan to Galilee to a Life sea

Next time your brain wants you to freeze, run or stay your ground and fight as is normal for a particular situation; pull the nerve trigger, stop all motion. You are the “toddler professor” in-charge here. You are determining the right next step. You are the one writing, telling, yelling, ACTING OUT the post and story of your life for a better and greater future, and clicking “publish”.

 

 

Make it Leisure- Starting a Journey

Thanks for joining me!

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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We all begin our journey in life like the toddler with the tiny first steps that get all first mums screaming to the first real corporate job or leadership position of the bubbling millennial.

I started writing when I was a teen. I actually finished a whole play, all hand written. Since then, writing has been a part of me, I write on anything and everywhere. During my university days, I remember creating a hand written journal/magazine that I paste once awhile on notice boards for students to read.

Though this is seen as a weakness in a corporate setting compared to picking up a phone to make a call or walking over to the next guy and having a decent conversation. It has nevertheless stayed with me. And thank goodness, it’s finally having an outlet, and that in a public domain! I think that’s a big huddle crossed. It’s called courageous, and marks a new era, the start of a new life, a new person, and a totally different journey. Whoah!

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I have so many themes in mind. But for now, my focus is shaped by a recent event where the “double life” that an individual live may shape the life of some others positively or negatively. It’s a journey for me, and I sincerely believe others can benefit from what I can unearthen. In fact, writing for you is the reason to start, endure and make this meaningful.

Life’s inspiration. How things affect me and you privately (Privatelyme) away from prying eyes. How what we do is derived from more private (Privatelyme) reasons than the outwardly seen or spoken one. How this relates with psychology, self awareness, self consciousness, authenticity and how they show up in the lives of leaders, celebrities, and the common you and I.

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My hope and joy will be that by virtue of the words that will flow from Privatelyme, not a few, but many, will come to find meaning and purpose, understand better the why of their actions or experiences and leap out into a more fulfilling life with a more rewarding ending.

So how do you start a journey, just get on the road and start. And once started on the path you’ve chosen, make the trip a leisure.

The world is the oyster for this blog, even though it’s about individuals private.

Thanks for having me. Thanks for coming with me on this journey of growth, discovery and change. If we achieve none of the above three in the next twelve months, I will have to be under the rubble and confirm that life is a waste where only a privilege few succeed. But that is absolutely false. So together, within the next twelve months, we will grow, makes awesome discoveries and make changes in all areas of our lives and that of others.

Welcome on board.